Men are not salmon on a 7 year cycle. Marriage gets boring, sex with the same person gets boring. However, when agreeing to the marriage contract both parties agreed to be faithful to each other. Thus you honor the contract or demonstrate your utter lack of character, self control or any sense of honor.Is it true that men cannot be faithful to their partners and that they want to be with other women regardless?
Face it...Humans are just a more complicated, advanced animal.
There's only a couple of species where the male is monogamous. It's a daily thing for a male to stay committed.
To guys, women are like cars…
We admire them as they pass by. We'll look at different models on the web or magazines. We imagine what it would be like driving others. We’ll go to “shows” to see many different models. We even sometimes miss the good times and bad of previous ones. Some even pay money to test drive others (eww). BUT… We may always look for “upgrades” but we will NEVER give up or replace the one that we have and love.
No. My husband has been faithful for 21 years. You may ask how I know. I know the same way a woman knows when her husband is toying with the idea of being unfaithful or is actively cheating.
Men are not by nature less able to be faithful in a commited relationship than women. Historically, women have had more incentive to remain faithful because they were more likely to get caught by pregnancy, to be executed for her sin, or to be left alone to care for herself when financially she wasn't prepared to do so. Consequently, now adultery is no longer a punishable offense, abortion is a legal option, and more women are financially independent, more women are being unfaithful in their marriages.
Your more complex question is to the why people are unfaithful. There are many reasons. Some men (and women) just find themselves in a compromising position, feel temptation, and without thinking it through, give in. These men (and women) tend to regret the decision immediately and may not ever do it again.
Others ';fan the flame'; so to speak. They know they are playing with fire but they like the flirting. They make effort to carve out time to be alone with the other person. They make excuses for their behavior and feel ';entitled'; to have the other person in their life. They may blame their spouse for their straying eye. These people will often carry on long, involved affairs requiring much deception, which becomes a part of the excitement. When caught, they regret the end of the game more than the hurt they've caused everyone around them. They often will repeat this behavior over and over again.
What does it take to be faithful? Being committed to the one you love. Setting appropriate boundaries to protect that relationship. Immediately removing oneself or cutting off flirtatious behavior and compromising situations.
Can you do anything to keep your spouse faithful? You can't control the other person, but you sure can make it more inviting to be faithful and more of a risk to be unfaithful. You can show love, respect, compassion, and caring to your husband. You can make home a haven and a place he really longs to be. You can remember the love you had for him when you were first dating and do those acts of love that made his eyes light up. You can keep passion alive by giving up sleep (even when you are really tired) and making good sex a priority in your marriage. None of these things are guarantees, but they all increase the odds that your husband will not stray. Obviously the character and will of your husband play a part in what he will do.
The notion that ALL men are unfaithful is a myth created by cheaters in order to justify their actions.
Being married does not mean that you lose desire for everyone else, but most people vow to be faithful to their spouse, which means choosing not to ACT upon that desire. You can and may certainly want a person other than your spouse, but you do not have to have sex with that person. If a man (or woman) feels that they have no control, they are either lying to cover the fact that they are a sleazebag or they have a compulsive personality disorder.
No, it is not okay. That is sinful. I believe in one and one only. One wife and one husband. No more cheating and no more playing games.
I think it depends on the man or woman. Some men are unfaithful some are faithful. Some women are unfaithful others are faithful. It depends on the person.
No, it's not true. My wife and I have been married for 10 years now and I'm more in love with her today than I was 10 years ago. And I'm faithful to her. Some guys are unfaithful to their wives because they think only of themselves and their needs instead of their wive's and their wives feelings and needs. Along with that selfishness, if men feel that they are not getting sex or enough sex from their wives they feel they need to find other women who will give them what they want.
Being unfaithful is not gender specific. I have been married for 28 years and we are a faithful couple. It's not the gender that makes a person cheat....it's the person themselves.
That is never okay! He doesn't truly love his wife if he does that. He can say he does but if you really love someone, you don't stray away from them. Period.
lust.. it is true that some men have trouble keeping their commitments..... but this is only because of lust of the flesh and hormones... an adulterer probably loves his wife very much.. but his 'other head' has taken over.... but do not make the assumption that simply because he is a male he will have an affair. that is unfair treatment and he deserves a chance.
you have to have him wrapped around your finger in order for him not to cheat.
I believe some men think this way, I also believe it is not right. When you get married, It is a vow that you will never love another and only to be with that one. Some men have a hugh lack of judgement. Others do it once and never again. Just take a look at the man,,,, there are good ones out there.... RIGHT????
Why, when a man or a woman has everything they need at home do they want to take a chance on ruining it is beyond me.But , it happens everyday with both sexes.
dude people make choices, right or wrong they make them.
no I was with a woman for11 years never cheated on her once but she did it to me
i believe men who cheat lack self control, and are a bit immature, and have no insight into theirselves. they have a different belief system, and live by a different set of rules than we do so in their eyes it seems okay. i believe it has to do with their belief system, not to mention the excitement of something new. the wife know's all his shortcoming's and the new woman doesn't. he has a fragile ego so when the new woman comes into his life, she has an aganda, to separate him from the wife, she wants what the wife has, and will do anything to get it. so she soothes his low self worth, making him feel important and wanted in the way the wife doesn't anymore.
Yeah--for the most part.Usually it is fantasy--a guy thing. There are those who do go for it though.
Only creeps and losers go out and cheat. Decent men with a sense of respect for themselves and a natural respect for their woman never cheat.
Must be the same thing that makes all women stereotype all men when just a few screw up!
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