Is it true that you can never change your partners personality? ?

Im trying to change the bad into good with my boyfriend but it doesnt seem to be working.. it does for like 2 weeks then i end up in tears again? i feel like me trying to change him is only gonna change me.. am i right? eg.. Arrogance, bad attitude?... ETC.? and lately he keeps telling me ''dont tell me what to do!! if im gonna do something i will do it?!?'' im not a moaner but all he does is just embaress me when were out for dinner for example always moaning at the waiters because somethings not right?! bla bla and all i said to him was.. ''do u have to moan about it?! just leav it!'' and he said dont tell me what to do!!! and he went off on one.. and i started to cry.. because all he does is makes me angry and cry... ur not supposed to be like that with someone you love?... and he said he was angry with something else.. but in a relationship arnt u supposed to talk to your partner like a bestfriend and know what their feeeling?.. its all about communication and he cant do that... what to do.... ARGHH!!Is it true that you can never change your partners personality? ?
Oh boy, you've got a real bad one here! First, NO, you will not be able to change his personality and second, he is a toxic person that you need to get away from. You deserve better than to be yelled at, embarrassed, belittled, and bewildered! You will never know where you stand with this guy %26amp; he likes it that way. Look for someone who is positive by nature. You don't need this for one more minute! His loss.Is it true that you can never change your partners personality? ?
Yes, u said it, trying to change him will only change u, it will make u suffer from depression and blood pressure, u may suffer a heart attack.


It is only a mad girl, madly in love who can tolerate this guy, who embarrasses u in public, and shouts at u, is insensitive to u and does not care about your feelings.
I'm afraid the answer's in the question there. You can't change someone's personality and you either have to live with it or get rid of them. I think that if you don't like a person's personality then you shouldn't be around them, it's as simple as that.
You Can Change Them, If They Want To Be Changed.


But In A Relationship You Gotta Take The Good With The Bad.


Also In The Scenario You Gave About The Meal, You Did Kinda Have A Go At Him, When Saying 'Do You Have To Moan About It!?'
You cant change anybodies personality. Happy.go.lucky people stay that way all there life and visa versa. You can bury it for a while but it always comes back. If you don't like the bum then get shot of him, Your only here once.
i don't get why you are with him, what attracted you to the guy. i mean it sounds like he's always been like this, and now you wanna change him, that won't work.
Walk away. He's not hearing you, he won't adjust his attitude, and frankly my dear, there are plenty of other fellas out there, so don't get into a twist over this guy. Ditch him. You're worth it!
Never change them, impossible !!!!!!!!!!
When I started dating my guy he had a very mad (hit things) temper. I told him I can not be with someone with a temper like that. I told him to change for him not for me %26amp; he did. His temper was not good for me, him or anyone else that is why I said something but the little things I just let slide %26amp; learn to joke about them because why be with someone if you have to change them to make it work.





If there are things that you really cant live with find someone who would be better for you and if you really love this guy then just let somethings go, Im sure there are things about you he would like to change.
you sound vry frustrated. You are very wise though. You already can see that by trying to change him you are just changing yourself and not necesarily for the better. To answer your question, you can have an influence on your man as time goes by, when two people become one, there is generally change on both sides as your thoughts and minds come together. This isnt something that is forced, but happens as you grow together.





The only thing you are capable of changing is YOU, maybe a change in your aproach or attitude will change your partner. maybe your just not meant to be together.





Whatever happens. Good Luck
one the things about life is freedom of choice. you cannot change your partner but you can be an example to them. you do the classy thing maybe something will stick. dont worry about his moaning, maybe if you ignore him he'll realise how unattractive it is and pull his socks up. until then if you want to make it work turn the other when behaves inappropiately. if you can't do this then you should not be with him. if you continue to tell him stuff he'll feel controled and start displaying worst attitudes. to make a relationship work have to learn a bit of tolerance.
you cant change anyone in this world. no amount of fighting and screaming and crying and making a scene is going to change anybody, ever, especially a guy who is completely different from you, doesnt care if you're happy or if you guys get along, is probably about to move to the next planet to escape your immature dramatic and ridiculous hysterical behavior. and says that he won't change. you sound so annoying and bossy i think i would yell at waiters too if i were your boyfriend. (lol and i never take the guy's side either). break up with him and go take a look at yourself, you shouldnt' cry unless somebody dies or something not because of the boo hoo how sad for you news that you can not make a guy into the little robot pet that you want.
i think you have lost or had a damage in the respect aspect of your relationship. its clearly how he talks with you. if he's angry with something or someone else and at the same time truly loves you, he wont be able to vent it on you because he loves you.





we can't change people specially our spouses, but they can help themselves change if they honestly feel that we are sincere when we respect their efforts in trying to change, when we appreciate them in spite of struggles to change and if they are still accepted however they are.





have a good time with each other. i hope you'll have a time out, maybe a date, an informal setting then pinch in this topic lightly. maybe he'd try to be honest if he want it to work. be careful also that this might be the start that he'd be thinking of divorce.





hope this helps.