Is it true you pick future partners that have the same traits that your previous partner had?

I had a pretty intense relationship with a girl for a little while and we ended it horribly because our parents didn't allow for it. So I was wondering if we subconsciously pick out traits in that person and use them to select your next partner? I noticed she has this ';new best friend'; who looks and acts a lot like me and I noticed that I'm drawn to people that look and act just like my ';ex';. Thanks!Is it true you pick future partners that have the same traits that your previous partner had?
No way. Not always!


My last serious ex was really shy, emotional and 'girly' in a way, with long brown 'emo' hair and skinny jeans whereas my current boyfriend is really confident, quite reserved with his feelings and has blonde surfer style hair with baggy jeans...so basically has all the qualities my ex didn't.





It might be that you're both missing each other as you didn't have an easy break up and are missing the gaps that you've left in each other's lives.Is it true you pick future partners that have the same traits that your previous partner had?
Uh no... everyone i have been with is really different from each other... none really are the same in any way at all....... hmmm
yep, they've all been lying cheats
Hmm...Well from my point of view I don't


necessarily choose or feel attracted to the


next person I may date just b/c something


about them reminds meh of my ex gf. That


isn't the case in most of my situations.


I never leave a relationship on bad terms.


So thats really good but I also never lose


contact with those same people for a


reason, I feel comfortable being friends


with ex's. Yes, its possible. But it can


also be torture if you still have feelings fer


that person. Generally, people know what


their looking for in a relationship or companion.


So thats what guides them unless they are


shallow and looks are where they start.


But other than that I like to get to know


th person %26amp; then I may consider taking


things to another level. I'm confident and


outspoken so I usually have no problem


telling someone I like them no matter what.


I'm NOT afraid of rejection.





In your case, I believe your still a tad bit


stuck on her %26amp; maybe you just don't want


to own up to it. I can understand how being


with someone for sooo long or having that


bond can make you want someone like them


again. But as far as those who go back to


the abusive relationships or just keep getting


into relationships with th wrong people and get


hurt in the process...Just be patient %26amp; wait it out.





Yeshhh, I admit I am a good gf, but I happen to


choose to be with people who aren't fer meh...


Eventually I ended up where I am now, single %26amp;


just waiting for th next approach. I'm not looking


b/c when I do I always get the ';non-committed';


ones or the ones who take meh for granted.





I just like to venture out %26amp; take risks...I like to


date people who are different just as I am...


I find interracial to be more interesting...I'm


just up for new experiences. And if I can't


learn something frm the person I'm gonna


be with then its probably a waste of my time.





GUDD LUCK!!